Dear Pastor Andy, why do Christians say that anyone who isn't a Christian or doesn't believe in Jesus is going to Hell? Christians also say love thy neighbor and be civil or something along those lines. Saying anyone who doesn't believe in Jesus is going to hell is not loving and not civil. Explain yourself.
Here's the thing.
God loves you...He REALLY does. In fact, God loves you SO much that He died (as Jesus) for you, and He died for you not to lay a guilt trip on you, but so that you could be with Him for all eternity. All you have to do is accept Him now (during your lifetime) by accepting Jesus as your Lord and God, and you will spend eternity with Him. This place where He is is Heaven.
God REALLY wants you to join Him there, and He's opened the door. But if you don't walk through the door, which is Jesus (John 14:6), then you obviously won't go join Him there. And since there are only 2 places to go when you die, you'll go to the other place.
You say it's not loving? God doesn't force you to love Him back. He gives you the choice to believe in Him, have faith in Him, accept Him, get to know Him, love Him...He says that if you truly seek Him, you'll find Him. But if you choose not to seek Him, then He won't force you...that's love. If He forced you, then that wouldn't be love.
God gave you the choice...the ball's in your court. Will you choose God who's in Heaven, or not God, which leads to the other place (Hell). Either way, it's your choice, and that's love...and it's also fair.